This page will not produce an amount for you. Not because the arithmetic is hard, but because a number produced by a website that knows eight things about you is a guess wearing a suit. What it will do is show you the factors people weigh, so that when you do work it out you know what you are weighing.

How people arrive at an amount What a household would need money for is set against what the household already has available. The difference between the two is the gap that people are usually trying to cover. The blocks are illustrative proportions only and carry no amounts, because the real proportions differ for every household. WHAT WOULD BE NEEDED Income the household relied on Mortgage and debts that survive Costs that arrive immediately Care and work someone was doing WHAT IS ALREADY THERE Savings that could be used A survivor's own earnings Coverage already in force the difference is the gap people are usually trying to cover
Deliberately unlabelled. The block sizes here are illustrative, and the real ones are different for every household.

What is being replaced

Income. If people depend on money you earn, the first question is how much of it they would still need and for how many years. A household does not usually need one hundred percent of a lost income forever. It needs enough, for long enough, to get to the other side of the gap.

Debts that do not die with you. A mortgage is the usual one. A co-signed loan is another. Some debts are settled by an estate, some pass to a surviving co-borrower, and which is which depends on the debt and on where you live.

Costs that arrive immediately. Funeral and burial or cremation costs land within days, long before any estate is settled. This is the expense most often left out of the arithmetic, and the one that most often gets put on a credit card or a fundraiser.

Costs that the surviving household picks up. If one adult was doing childcare, someone now pays for childcare. That work had a value even though nobody was invoicing for it.

Goals with a date on them. Education is the common one.

What is already there

Coverage is not calculated in a vacuum. Against all of the above sits whatever the household already has:

  • Savings and investments that could actually be used for this.
  • A surviving partner's income and earning capacity.
  • Life insurance already in force, including any through work. Coverage through an employer is worth counting, and also worth understanding: it is usually owned by the employer, the amount is set by the plan, and it generally does not follow you when the job ends. That is not a reason to dismiss it. It is a reason not to treat it as the whole answer.
  • Survivor benefits the household may be entitled to.
Coverage through work, and coverage you buy yourself
Through your jobA policy you own
Who owns itUsually the employerYou
Who sets the amountThe planYou, within the limits of underwriting
If you leave the jobGenerally ends, though some plans allow conversionUnaffected
Worth countingYesYes
Worth relying on aloneNo, because it moves when your job doesThat is what it is for

About rules of thumb

You will run into shorthand like "ten times your income." Rules of thumb are useful for one thing: getting a person who has never thought about this into roughly the right order of magnitude in ten seconds.

They are not useful as an answer, because they ignore everything on this page. Two people with identical incomes, one with no dependents and no debt and one with three children and a mortgage, do not land in the same place. Treat the rule of thumb as the start of the conversation.

The part nobody puts in the calculator

What you can actually afford to pay, every month, for as long as the coverage needs to last. A policy that lapses in year three because the premium was uncomfortable protected nobody. Affordability is not a compromise on the plan, it is part of the plan.

The questions, in order

Someone working through this for a household would answer, roughly in this order:

  1. Who would be financially worse off, and in what way?
  2. What would they need money for, and for how many years?
  3. What would still be owed?
  4. What arrives immediately, regardless of anything else?
  5. What is already in place that could be used?
  6. What is the gap between four and five?
  7. What can actually be paid each month, sustainably?

No total is shown here on purpose. The answer to question six is different for every household, and it is the part worth talking through with a person.

An invented household, used to show how the idea works. It is not advice and it is not about you.

Check yourself

Nothing is scored and nothing is recorded. Answer in your head, then open it.

Why is coverage through your job worth counting but not worth relying on entirely?

Because it is real coverage while you have it, but the employer generally owns the policy, the plan sets the amount rather than your household’s needs, and it usually ends when the job does. Counting it is sensible. Building the whole plan on it means the plan changes every time you change jobs.

A household loses an adult who did all the childcare and earned nothing. Is there a gap?

Yes. That work had a value even though nobody was invoicing for it, and the surviving household now pays somebody to do it. Unpaid work is one of the most commonly missed items in this arithmetic, because it never appeared on a payslip.

Why is affordability part of the plan rather than a compromise on it?

Because a policy that lapses in year three protected nobody. A number that cannot be sustained for as long as the need lasts is not a better answer than a smaller number that can.

The one thing to remember

The question is not “how much life insurance should I have.” It is “what would this household need money for, for how long, and what does it already have.” The gap between those two is the answer, and it is different for everyone.

Free worksheet · PDF Coverage Factors Worksheet The factors people weigh, with space to fill in what you know. No total line, on purpose.

Underneath this lesson

Each of these is a real subject in its own right. They are deliberately not in the beginner sequence, and they are what the Learning Center grows into next.

  • Which debts survive you What an estate settles, what passes to a co-borrower, and how that varies by state.
  • Survivor benefits What a household may already be entitled to before any policy is considered.

Have a question about your own situation?

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